Why Do Women People Please?

It’s more complicated than you think! Working with women (and girls) for almost three decades, I’ve been struck by how many feel inadequate (aka worthless, undeserving, not good enough), commonly referred to as imposter syndrome. My colleagues have observed this, too. In fact, it’s so pervasive, I can only conclude that the cause is cultural….

The January 6th Committee Forgot About the Officers

After the attacks on 9/11, I provided Critical Incident Stress Management (CISM) services for a variety of private companies. In one case, I ended up staying a week – not just because of the attacks, but because the company was undergoing a merger. Employees were on edge because some were likely going to lose their…

Know a Trump supporter? Here’s how to talk to them.

People have good reasons for making bad decisions. Until you identify what those are and offer better solutions, they will not change. No matter how logical your argument, how many facts you present, how emotional your pleas or how often you repeat yourself, you cannot convince people to change. You see it in everyday life – overeating,…

Simone Biles: Re-modeling Mental Health and Female Self-Esteem

Listening to Simone Biles at Tuesday’s press conference, I was impressed by how comfortable she appeared with her decision. Let’s be clear: Simone is not the problem. We are. In our media-driven culture, where appearance is confused with substance and simple solutions are thrown at complex problems, Simone taught the country a lesson: mental health…

The Most Dangerous Man in America: It’s Not Who You Think

Published December 2019 Some readers may remember Congresswoman Connie Morella. I grew up in her district. I used to quip she was a “Republican in name only.” She even voted against impeaching President Bill Clinton. Morella served eight terms before being defeated by then-State Senator Chris Van Hollen. While I understood the Democratic Party’s desire…

“America is Not a Racist Country:” The politics of semantics

The comment by Senator Tim Scott and other Republicans that, “America is not a racist country,” is like saying humans beings aren’t violent. It is meant to provide an answer without addressing the substance of the question. If we look at America as a collection of ideals then, sure, you could argue it’s not inherently…

The Age of Ageism

Senator Diane Feinstein received a lot of criticism yesterday for calling the hypothetical retirement of Supreme Court Justice Stephen Breyer “a great loss.” She is quoted as saying, “My general belief is if a person serving with integrity and working hard and producing for whatever the constituency is, that’s what these jobs are all about.”…